Positions for a better orgasm

Some things in life are better on repeat: Friends , perfectly sunny beach days, your trusty white manicure. Your sexcapades, though? Definitely not one of them. Even the hottest spark in the bedroom needs new sex positions to stoke the flames from time to time—otherwise things get boring, fast. In short, your brain craves newness, and especially for women, your brain is very involved in your excitement and satisfaction. Note: While many of these directions reference male partners, these positions can be assumed by just about anyone.

According to research published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine , vaginal and clitoral orgasms are separate sensations. Interest in testing out new positions actually makes a big difference in her pleasure and her arousal, explains Jen Landa, M. From here, she should bend her right leg around the right side of your waist—allowing full access to her vagina. This position is an upgrade from standard missionary because this sets you up for deeper penetration and allows you to slow your roll. So spend some time exploring her body. This setup gives you complete access to her clitoris for manual stimulation.

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