What is soft swap

Specifying rules is one way to make swinging more comfortable for you and your partner, especially if you feel hesitant to try ethical non-monogamy. In swinging, you have the hard swap or full swap and the soft swap. A hard swap includes all sorts of sexual activities, including intercourse. But a soft swap stops short of penetration, usually including manual stimulation, flirting, caressing, kissing and potentially oral sex.

This question is posed on every swinger networking site and is crucial information for couples seeking other partners for play. First, we should go over some definitions. There is a common misconception among new swingers as seen on many misinformed message boards and chat rooms that soft swapping simply means same room sex, where each couple has sex only with their own partner while occupying the same room, or that soft swapping only means female-female play. This is not the case. Soft swapping can encompass a wide range of activities, from kissing, to fondling and for some couples, even oral sex with one or more people outside the couple. Simply put, soft swapping means that there is no actual penetration with outside people. There are advantages and disadvantages to both and there is no one right answer for every couple.

Soft swap is a term used by individuals who are into the swinger lifestyle or partner swapping. It refers to sexual activities in swinger play, but does not include penetrative sex of another person's partner. Soft swap swingers have a range of different limits. For instance, some may only want to have sex in the same room as other swingers. Others, however, may be open to the idea of kissing, fondling, oral sex, and analingus with other swingers.

For the first 18 months of our lifestyle journey, Mr Jones and I were a soft swap couple. Playing with other couples without the added complications that full swap sex can bring was enough for us at that time. What complications you ask?